We need to respect out elders...seriously...

[shewolfe (deleted)]

We need to respect out elders and not show them any sort of rude remarks or disrespect. I'm talking about in general. There are some young people who have no respect some for example i see some young curse out or run into their car and not say sorry. What happend to manners? it's like it's gone. I know there are respectful people. i'm just ranting!

[nootau (deleted)]

`The way for you to help change that is to lead by example. You will still find elders that aren't worthy of respect, but being cordial is enough. Negative people are not worth the energy you waste responding to, surround yourself with positive loving people and only good will happen in your life.

[starwhiteeagle (deleted)]

Thank you nootau, well said!
Blessings

[grneydhalfbreed (deleted)]

`Someone once said "There is a difference between elders and the elderly." Our elders, no matter what race, are the ones who are very wise, kind and guide us in life. Than, there are elderly people who are just old. While I do respect my elders, I don't have patience or tolerance for some elderly people who do not show the same respect to young people. If I am confusing anyone, let me elaborate.

There is an elder who gave me my name more than a year ago. I visit him when I can afford to. He lives far away. I love him. He is also a very powerful medicine man and is loved by many. He is very kind, always gives good advice and guidance. He is like a father. In fact, although he is not my father, I refer to him as my father and he is my daughters grandpa.

Than, there is an elderly person who is maybe a couple years older than the first man I was talking about. You'd think that this man would be mature, kind, and a good person, but he is not. He is very grumpy, is always saying mean things, especially about women (he beat his girlfriends). I have no respect for him at all and some people have a problem with that. If old people are rude to me, there's no reason why I or anyone else should keep quiet because of their age. Doesn't make them better than the younger folk. But, to respect our elders...I totally agree with and there is a big difference. I hope people can distinguish that for themselves.

[shewolfe (deleted)]

`nootau says iam wise for my age :)

[nativeg61 (deleted)]

`I believe that all elderly people are worth listening to because they have been through alot more then we could ever imagine. Some are still unfortunately holding onto old issues that may have happened to them. Some will discuss these things and others will continue to walk around with a "chip" on their shoulders and not trust anyone. When I have a problem that I can't figure out I will talk to an elder about it and they take the time to explain things to me.

[reb67 (deleted)]

`Nativeg61 left an excellent post and then deleted that is too bad.

but i was thinking about this and wondering about commenting..here it goes i guess. where i live the elderly are treated wonderfully. so many programs and support, it's very impressive..they will get help and support whether they want it or not. What i find just sad tho is the children and a lot of the teens.. some of the enviroments are just scarey. so much drugs and alcohol, fighting and deep depression is all very pervasive here. i see so many of the younger and middle aged women come into the clinic and are just worn down. very stressed out managing children and demands of thier parents and grandparents for help with thier needs as well. a lot is involved in that, and a lot of these women are not taking care of thier selves..blood pressure trouble, anxiety "disorders", untreated diabetes and such are very common. a lot of the teens are just plain angry and sad AND falling thru the cracks. so many times they just get stuck. just stuck in thier enviroments and dont think they can be or do anything different than thier immediate environment, they resent it understandably. These are the "elders" of the future. and i wish so much that there was as much as an aggessive outreach for them as there is for the elders here today.

[shewolfe (deleted)]

`Reb you make a very good point at one time when my mom was young there was no deppression shes about 61 years old ^^; she raised me to respect my elders and never talk back at parents etc. i got a deppresion disorder and yes i see a therapist but it helps me also ive found ways of medication like walking around and being social outside of the internet is a very postive thing.

[carolineishot (deleted)]

`I don't have a lot of faith in my generation. It's like common kindness is no longer common! Nobody has any manners or respect for anyone anymore... And I'm a 90's baby, by the way.

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[shewolfe (deleted)]

`being raised in the 90's is awesome!

[wohelo]

[quote="nootau"]`The way for you to help change that is to lead by example.

I couldn't have said it better. Those of us in our 40s,50s on are the ones that need to lead by example. But you 90s kids can too.

[itsallgoodinaz (deleted)]

`If they are older than you, they are your elders.
I see failure at times to even acknowledge an elders presence.
I was taught to shake every ones hand in a room and believe me, they were lots at times, but it was done.
The other subject is going to someones home.
At the very least offer a glass of water and turn off the TV.

[astrozier1 (deleted)]

`Yeah my friends, the community, the whole world I felt tried to grab me and tell me to respect my mother. I just did not get it. Now I do, she passed on Nov 8th 2011 and you can't catch me complaining about her the way I did when she was alive. All I can think about is how she forgave me and the good in her. You all are right I hope someone who was like me reads this and wakes up before their mother's head gets cold!

[2sweet2b4got10]

`My X's family shows such disrespects. I could not believe the way it was acceptable to curse in a grandmothers face..

I was taught MUCH differently! I almost feel like we were from different planets. In my family, When an elder was in need.. you moved to them(as long as needed). Their voice/life held great power. Now such family structures are as sick as the earth is getting.