Don’t Give Us Your Number!

[libelle (deleted)]

Etiquette is not dead I tell you. Men know to walk on the outside of their women, closer to dangerous gutters and shin-hitting strollers. Women know to protect their man from ungracious comments their girlfriends make, etc. etc. There is one thing though that has alarmingly become more popular and I can’t say that I like it. The phone number reversal. Since when have men thought it proper to give us their number instead of asking for ours? This is a steamy pile of crap!

Being single is difficult for both sexes involved, it just is. The slow dance of flirting is a socially agreed upon exchange. We act like we don’t see you, you walk over awkwardly, or send a drink over to do your talking for you. We laugh at each other’s jokes (if they’re bad enough) and you ask us for our number. It’s a complicated jig and has taken us a long time to get in to position and do it right. Now men are throwing in some new step no gentlemanly instructor has taught them. It’s not a good move and I’ll give you 3 good reasons why:

1–It tells us you have no guts. We like guts–thick, long, windy ones. The days of fearlessly fighting dragons don’t exist anymore. Asking for our number is the next closest thing, so do it, and do it boldly, slayer.

2–It tells us you’re cheap. Maybe you get charged for calls after 7 p.m. and that’s why you want us to call you. Get a new job, man.

3–It tells us you have low self-esteem. This will kill any chance you thought you had with us. If you don’t believe you can get in to our pants, we will confirm that belief.

Gutless, cheap, loser. These are not the adjectives of a casanova. Generally speaking, we look to men to take the lead. (I will deny this later, so don’t quote me). If you don’t take this initiative, we are out on the dance floor under a spot light with no partner.

So if you want some, ask for our number, it’s the first good move you can make.

[anakareninak]

Darling i quite agree with you the days of chivalry are long gone and gentleman are a dying breed if not already extinct.

The points you have made are quite valid and i am glad you have pointed them out.

There is nothing we should be afraid of when courting and we should always have the courage in us to try regardless of the outcome.

I am a very strong believer in the old fashioned ways ( as they are referred to now ) and etiquette is one of them and when two human's reach out to each other nothing else matters :monies , job's ,etc ... is just for the shallow in soul.

I say reach out with respect and respect will be given, if you don't you have only yourself to blame for.

:)