I am throwing my hands up.

[zoupi]

rblyl wrote: ` I have also been acutely aware of her self esteem, and wanting her to be proud of her strengths (there are many).

My sons it is more difficult, I just try to love them, but I can't be a male role model to them-so the road is a little different and I am still learning.

I think it is one of the best things a parent can do for thier child, it to celebrate who they ARE.



You have all good

Differences are not so important all the time they don't mean "discrimination". All the time your daughter can see she has the same value for you than her brother there is no problem.
In couple or alone there is no "ideal" parents. Who could pretend being wonderful each day of its life ?
The same way there is no "perfect" children because they are small persons and justly not some pretty dolls.

We learn from them as they learn from us. All the time each one receive some love, even the mistakes can't become injuries.

[rblyl (deleted)]

`Thank you Zoupi. and the love is there...sometimes more PATIENCE is needed though!lol..

[blackfootedgirl]

rblyl wrote: I am one of these really really weird women who is not proficient at reading the minds of men. In fact, I am clueless. So here it is bluntly..as far as I know women are responders. Why do women fall for men who have the talk? Because it gives us something to RESPOND to (just in case there are any men who read the forum and have wondered this-there it is-now you know.) When men pursue a woman and she responds, she is responding to the words and behavior in the pursuit. When a man becomes complacent, because she is captured or whatever..she may begin to nag, at least. Then men appear to be dumbfounded that there may be a problem (her problem, of course) that she is not happy. People say it's unrealistic (not "real life") that people can pay that kind of attention past the initial phase of a relationship. Why not? Maybe thats why so many fail then? Personally, if it's not there 100%, I dont want it at all..and women who do settle like that look old at 45 and unhappy and dont live from thier heart at all, they look tired. But what the hell..they got someone to watch a nightly re-run with...oh boy. Talk about death... LIFE wasn't suppose to be like that people!





I am not a mind reader either, as far as I know (or last thought) both are supposed to contribute to the conversation.Some guys think we want them to solve our "problems" when we only want them to just stand there with a box of kleenex , a hug and listen to us vent.
Also some men talk mindlessly just to hear himself failing to see the heart of the problem that had been staring them in the face since day one,and then they wonder why, out of the blue they come home to an empty house.
Communication at times can be like being between a rock and a hard place.

[rblyl (deleted)]

`Seeing the 'heart of a problem' without a clue of the heart of a woman, just dosen't seem to work it seems.