I had met someone last year on Native American Passions.....

[warriormaiden01 (deleted)]

I had told him over and over again that it wasn't right for him to deny me to talk to my male friends..He constantly tells me that I don't need anyone else to talk to..I had told him several times that we should forget about each other and go on with our own lives, but he doesn't want to let go. He is 34 yrs old (going on 35)....... keeps telling me he needs me and cares about me....he had said that he wouldn't be able to sleep, think, write, or function at work if I did that! He has also thrown his cell and home phone on the floor and damaged them when I told him we need to stop now..Also said he was in a relationship with a girlfriend 5 yrs ago (for 3 yrs) and she cheated on him and left with another guy) He told me that his girlfriend said it was "Normal" to go out with other people (when they were committed to one another) He said he doesn't want to get hurt again...

[warriormaiden01 (deleted)]

[quote="straighteyes"]`hello warriormaiden01, hope that I am allowed to talk to you..if this is a private space I don´t want to bother you. But as an european and as a women who had her own experiences on NAP with some guys before, I thought I might be allowed to say something. Italien men, spanish men, all south europeans are machos, the biggest one you can find in europe. And in parts of this countries the life of a women is not worth a dime. In some parts women got still punished by the whole village when acting "dishonorably". I don´t have to tell you that the rules are men rules. I just want to say: take your legs and run as fast as you can..there will never be a life for you that you might enjoy. And on the other hand, you found out that he is not trustworthy. A friend would never ask for things he did . And a partner who really loves you either. I think you should take good care for yourself protect your life and soul and send him into the desert.
straighteyes

To straighteyes....... Thank You very much for your response. I have thought about what you said, and I believe you are right! I know he had told me that he doesn't do anything at home. (his Aunt does all the work) He gives money to his Aunt for cleaning his house, cooking, washing his clothes, etc) when his Aunt is gone for several days, he has to clean up his mess before she gets home (or else she will be very upset at him) He said he is a very reserved person and keeps to himself....(only joined Native American Passions to learn about Native Culture) But after a couple of weeks of writing and talking about Native Culture, it turned into talkin about our "Personal" lives...He came to the U.S. to visit and wants to come back again!

[soulflower00 (deleted)]

Sounds like a serious control issue to me, lack of self esteem...these types usually are or become abusers. If it were me, I'd cut him off and put your foot down.

[kiwibutterfly]

`let him go! move on! ignore him. sounds like abuse already. i should knw. my ex went thru 10 cellphones in 3 yrs. enough is enough sister! stand strong! his actions aren't ur responsibility.