Is there really such a thing as soulmates?

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

Gee!

[loveternal (deleted)]

lily4567 wrote: `So Chosnazzy how many women have you had before? Tell me ! lol

Loveternal what would be the ideal man for you now?



LOL!!

The ideal man for me? He should be nice, clean, and take good care of himself. He should be at peace with his past, have a good sense of humor, have respectful for all life, and be humble. He should be able to communicate in a nonjudgmental way and know the value of difficulty. And he should want to know me, and not just focus on my physical appearance, which means he must be able to be my best friend, too. We have to earn each other's trust to honor each other. Of course, I have to be physically attracted to him, too. And it does not matter what his race is, as long as he has respect for all women and that he does not see women as possessions for his personal pleasure. And he should value the opinions of women, as well as men.

AND he should be a creative person! That is very VERY important to me!

I dont like it when a man says something like "I will take care of you and make sure you have everything you need", because that is treating me like a helpless thing or a possession. It should be that we care for one another, and not "take care".

Ok this is just Part 1 from my list. The sequel will come a little bit later LOL!!!

:)

[lily4567 (deleted)]

`Totally agree with you loveternal I think much like you! What would be the second part of the list then? :)

[lily4567 (deleted)]

chosnazzy wrote: Gee!





lol

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

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Yes I agree with Loveternal. I prefer a woman who is creative. Because when someone is creative, whether in music or whatever, that means they are creative in "other" nice things, too :)

[loveternal (deleted)]

AND!!! I prefer a man who is smart!

One time, I was with a guy and he asked me how many guys I was with before him. So there was that Red Flag question. So I looked up and pretended to be counting to a really high number. And then I said, "Well, there was a Brazilian and ...."

Immediately, he shouted "OH MY GOD, YOU WHORE! BRAZILIAN IS MORE THAN A MILLION, ISNT IT??"

I never laughed so hard in my life when he said that. And he was really serious, too! I like a man who has a very good sense of humor, but this guy had no idea he was funny LOL!!

[lily4567 (deleted)]

Chosnazzy: How that "others" things nice?

Loveternal:It's very funny I like !! :)

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

I better not say because I might get kicked off this site.

[loveternal (deleted)]

`LOL!!


But yes, creative people are usually creative in many things. For example, when someone is good with their hands, like a guitarist or pianist, they are usually also quite good in other things that involve using their hands. Can you imagine? Like maybe they are good at cooking delicious meals. Maybe this is what Chosnazzy means...... "maybe".

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

This is part of something I wrote earlier:
chosnazzy wrote: When the couple is healthy, there will be open and non-judgmental communication. If you are in a healthy relationship like that, neither partner is going to do anything to bring harm to the relationship. Hence, when you are in this kind of healthy relationship, you should never be concerned about what others think about your relationship.

And I just wanted to add something to that in this new post.

When a difficulty arises that affects the couple, open and nonjudgmental communication is especially crucial during this time. And when you actually can do that, the result most likely will be that the love this couple has for one another will grow stronger. The emphasis on the words "will grow stronger". This shows they are "making" their relationship. It is "becoming" something greater than before. This is not fate, this is beauty. This is love.

In the Lakota tradition, there is a sacred term called "Mahasani". And to achieve that requires open and nonjudgmental communication, especially in times of great difficulty. In this way, the couple nurtures their relationship and transforms any difficulty into something great.

[loveternal (deleted)]

It just like the author of this topic states in the beginning:
alessandra7 wrote: Life is just what you make of it.

This is not fate. This is life. Love flows. And how it flows depends on how healthy or unhealthy we live our lives.

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

Exactly, and even if you have been thrown into a situation without choice, like in a pre-arranged situation, you still have a choice concerning what you are going to do with that situation. Freedom, like reality, begins with the mind and heart working together, which is the most effective way to find a solution. And this will help you to be more aware of a possible solution in front of you, as well. Because in some situations, people may be looking for a solution to something, but they are so caught up in the emotions of that situation, that their heart and mind are not working together. And that can result in not being able to see the solution when it is right in front of them.

[loveternal (deleted)]

Concerning people who use deception in trying to attract a partner, "What goes around, comes around." I think when someone presents him/her-self in false way to others, this is an unhealthy energy that this deceiving person is using. And that unhealthy energy is absolutely going to return stronger to that deceiving person who is sending it out. So pretending to be someone else, while flirting with others online is going to result in some serious consequences for that person who is deceiving other people. That is not a way to attract a healthy partner. Instead, those who deceive others will eventually be deceived themselves.