IF YOU MET SOMEONE ON NAP WOULD YOU DELETE YOUR ACCOUNT?

[blackfootedgirl]

If you met someone here on NATIVE AMERICAN PASSIONS and were dating exclusive would you delete your account?
You can always give the friends you made your personal email.
Or you could state that you are off the market but staying for the friends you made here in your profile.
What would you expect of your new partner., Would you two delete together? Would you trust your partner if you deleted but he or she did not?
So many variables to consider.

What would you do personally or expect from the person you are dating?

blackfootedgirl

[rebelyell08_PREV (deleted)]

`delete. And I would not trust them if they stayed on. I would find it disrespectful to do otherwise. On both parts.

[(deleted)]

`I agree with you rebel 100 % but also in my own opinion (I do have them) finding love on internet can be a dangerous and scary thing, because you just don't know what you're going to get and it takes a while after you meet to find out the true character of the person.I mean a long while people can put up a facade and fool you for a long long time..

[rebelyell08_PREV (deleted)]

`boy howdy!

[blackfootedgirl]

`But what about the friendships that a person makes here. I have made a few friends that I talk to on here and through email if either of us are running low on the 10 per day limit, I would give my other my password if it became exclusive and expect the same of him to maintain trust, there should be nothing to hide, right? what do you two think about exchanging passwords. Anyone can cheat with anyone anywhere physically or in cyberspace. so is all of this a moot point anyway? Big issue in ones mind that may or may not go away with time.

[rosesandwine2_PREV (deleted)]

`As a new member, this is not something that I had even thought of when joining this site. Now I have something more to think about. It is true that people can cheat anywhere at any time. I would have to agree with the two above, huggeroftrees and rebelyell08. If they have truly found love, then they should both delete. If one does and the other doesn't, one would have to wonder as to why the other partner did not delete their profile.
Another thing now crossing my mind....why did I join!!!! I am not sure if I made the right decision, but hey, life is short and if nothing else, I will have hopefully found some interesting people.
Cyber-dating...what an idea. I guess you really better trust the person you choose to become involved with because you will never know how many people he or she may be entertaining.
Would I exchange passwords? I would not have an issue with that at all. I know that I would not have anything to hide. But, if my 'chosen one' did not feel comfortable exchanging passwords, then I would have to wonder what he is hiding.
By the way, I am wondering about the popular list. Are these people the ones who get the most email from here. Are they just the people who get viewed the most on this site?
I fell off the boat...to conclude...I would delete my account and would hope that my partner would also. If not, I would wonder as to his intentions.

[rebelyell08_PREV (deleted)]

`Giving the password, if they choose to remain, is alright. the friends I made here though would know me away from the site (email, whatever). I think my own thinking on this is about the integrety of the relationship, I suppose. If I met someone at a singles event, i would not continue to go to the singles event. Because..no matter your own view on this there are people here who would go ahead and persue as they think, "hey if it's serious, why are you still here." And I think this because of my own experience here in a "relationship".

p/s:most popular is most viewed. You can get no emails one day and still be on most popular because a lot have looked at your profile.

[johnmarlon (deleted)]

Well, I was once doubted when I said that my purpose for being here was just because I enjoy reading boards, and I also enjoy reading what people have to say about themselves in their profiles. That is why my profile info states that.

I suppose if I found myself in the situation you speak of, I'd probably say NO, because I'd still enjoy the boards and profile viewing from time to time. I guess you could say I enjoy what people have to say about themselves and reading conversations too.

[rebelyell08_PREV (deleted)]

`Honestly..I can really understand that as well.

Maybe I would like to be on but the other shouldn't be. ideally anyway. But I can understand what Johnmarlon is saying as well to be fair.

[priestessashe]

`I would definitely stay on the site, for my main purpose is to make friends and really not to find a life-partner, though I am definitely no opposed to finding a man who understands me and cares for me and vice versa.

I enjoy the message boards as well and reading as well as commenting on what people talk of. It's fun!

[rosesandwine2_PREV (deleted)]

`I like these responses. I have to say that I can see why a person would stay on the site to read the forum posts!!! They are fun and informative as far as I can see. But, if one were to enter into a relationship with someone from here, how would you really know if they were committed to only you. Trust is one thing,but to be enticed by others...well, that is a chance I guess you would have to take concerning your chosen partner.
I would still delete my account if I were asked to do so merely out of respect for my partner and would hope that he would do the same. I would think that it would not be such an issue or problem if he were as committed as I.

[rebelyell08_PREV (deleted)]

`I couldn't agree more really.

[zoupi]

What a pleasure to have this opportunity to be a witch again !

I think you focus too much on website. Internet don't change the peoples... but peoples use internet the same way as they act in the "concrete" world !

I'm right enough with Princess, why should I delete my account if I have always been here for friendship only and mainly in contact with others girls ?

I'm afraid that those who expect to find the "ideal" one here will meet many deceptions because it's effectively easier to lie as much on our true faces than our waits, tastes, situation in life. Plus I'm sure that many peoples here just want fun or non lasting experiences. It's not a crime all the time they let the other know it and agree or not.

Delete or give a password as just no sense ! There are countless of sites this kind. It's very easy to delete here and go to create another account elsewhere so what guaranty ? For what concern the password's exchanges... what a sadness, almost insulting for you as for the other !! If you begin a relation with all this suspicion it' better to stop it immediatly. Love needs a part of trust and what you hope in asking such things is to avoid "all risks" !!! LOL !!! It's simply impossible inside human's relations

The bigger problem with the internet meetings in my point of view is the miss of patience. Each time you take the time to share with someone, you will perceive who is the "true" person which is sharing with you. As I said in another post : Love can make peoples blind but OWN LOVE makes them blind ALWAYS. The more painful deceptions come often by the fact we want to see our partners by our wishes and not their reality !!

To end with few humour : If I was living a new "love-story" I would simply no more have enough free time to come here for write my "bull----s" :wink:

[rosesandwine2_PREV (deleted)]

`I am happy to read the different responses and see the different ideals that persons have concerning this subject.

I think that maybe one reason a person would expect deletion of accounts would be that there would not be so much temptation to "cyber-cheat". As many have commented, it is easier to be someone that you are not or say something that is not when going through the internet.

Would I want the extra temptation when there is so much already in everyday life? No, I wouldn't. But, then again, when it comes to the trust issue, I guess that you would just have to trust your chosen partner and hope that they are on the "up and up". Zoupi mentioned that there are many dating sites that people could use even if they deleted their accounts here. That is so true...and how would one know if the other did just that?

I would also think that a person could tell that the relationship was not on the "up and up" simply by a change in the person's reaction to you. Are they not as excited to see or speak to you? Have they stopped doing the "little things" that they used to? If you have professed love, do they not say "I love you" anymore or not as much? Those may not be good examples now that I think about it; but the idea is there. Sometimes you can sense the change that has taken place and your gut tells you that something is different or wrong. Sometimes you just know that they are interested in someone else...then it is just a matter of time when they give the "Dear Jane or Dear John" speech. But, hey, there are many sites to join to try again after the healing period...or just get out in the real world to see what is out there.

I think that people come here for many reasons...whether to meet friends, meet a potential love match or to "just read the forum posts". There are many more reasons, of course; but, that is just a few that came from the top of my head. But, I still hold onto the idea that I would delete my account out of respect for my partner and hope that he would do the same. Persons can exchange their personal email addresses and keep in touch that way instead of through the dating sites.
Zoupi, you are so right...."If I was living a new "love-story" I would simply no more have enough free time to come here for write my "bullsh*ts" "
This statement is so true!!!!!

[johnmarlon (deleted)]

I can kind of understand the concept of deleting an account out out of respect for a partner, although I can't entirely wrap my mind around it.

In all reality it would be easier to test their trust if they still have their account here.