Did you ever....

[n8ivbeauty1985]

Did you ever click on someones profile just to immediately regret it??? It's like oh no, gross, why did I do that!!!!

[weltenwanderin (deleted)]

`No, never.
If I click on a profile then it is because I'm curious. And so it's not important if I like or dislike what is written there.

[n8ivbeauty1985]

weltenwanderin wrote: `No, never.
If I click on a profile then it is because I'm curious. And so it's not important if I like or dislike what is written there.




LOL. I was referring more to profile pics. I recently seen a pic on the popular page and thought "hmm, not a bad pic" and decided to check out the profile and see what the person was about. While on the profile page I encountered more pics that were definitely not one bit flattering (in my opinion) and immediately regretted clicking on that persons profile cause the pics made me think "eww, gross! Oh no, why did I do that". I guess one reason I regretted clicking on the profile is because when that person logs in and views the "who viewed me" page they would see my picture and automatically think I am interested in them when realistically after seeing all the pics on their profile I am not at all interested in that person. You know based on looks alone

[apache2u]

`I've seen some wild photos on here and always wondered how they got approved..

[apache2u]

`Also people who put up (men) half naked photos think it's a turn on, don't know about you but for me there is nothing like seeing an elderly man half naked . Just makes me shake my head and say WHAT WERE THEY THINKING!!

[n8ivbeauty1985]

`Now that this post has been up for a while i see how many views it has gotten and how few comments it has, I feel kinda bad about feeling disappointed and having such regret about a persons picture . But... only cause I feel that I'm the only one who has felt that way. am I wrong for feeling disappointed or even grossed out by some unflattering photos people post? Judging by the lack of posts I feel like I'm definitely in the minority on this point

[annlisbeth (deleted)]

`Hi n8ivbeauty1985,

Don’t feel bad about this. I think maybe you are just saying out aloud what other people may be thinking. In Danish we have a very common expression which equals the English expression: “Silence gives consent”.

Personally, I have not tried to be in the situation you mention. Actually, I have been in the opposite situation. I once clicked on somebody’s profile by accident and it turned out to be a very handsome young man and I thought: “Oh my god, what may he be thinking – “what interest does an old woman like that have in me?”” He responded very sweetly though. So there can be many reasons why you click on somebody’s profile. I think that most people may be aware that when somebody clicks on their profile, this does not necessarily mean that you are interested in them, just curious. This is how it is with me at least. Besides, it is my impression that most people here are more interested in dating, conversation, and finding friends than writing messages in the discussion forum.

So cheer up! You have done nothing wrong.

[softroses08]

`Posted: 30 Mar 2013 10:23
`Why do we judge another on looks? One can look good and be the ugliest person on the inside. It seems to me that when we were young at heart we look to those things on the outside simply because we let society dictate. what a fine person look like ( you know like T.V., Commercial, The Movies, Singers, Friends etc. )but as we age we know more or should know more .and at that time when more wisdom had settle within we should see more then just the outside. We need too search for that inner spirit the true look of a person. So you see some might say looks matter just remember one day the outer looks will change don't get stuck with that ugly person who has no real beauty within.Save yourself a lot of time and search the spirit where real beauty is found.

[papago3 (deleted)]

`I don't think you are an old woman Ann...I think you are very interesting, and I sent you a message to that fact ...the thing about me being on here is this...most times I am tired from work and most of my creativity and stamina is gone by the time I get on here...and I just manage a few words...unless I have an off day and can write a bit longer. To post a picture of myself without much clothes would be defeating my purpose and lower my persona in only the material sense of myself ....which is only a part of me- and leaving out the other parts of myself ie. soul, spirit, mind.

[sunisgreen]

`In some captions, some write so well..you just want to read the rest (clicking on their profile). For me, I'm just nosey and want to know about their life...? Yes, Softrose..even on the internet, you connect with a person as you would in real life. Regardless of their appearance, social status and exc. We/they just need to find a weakness to let the flowers bloom.

[annlisbeth (deleted)]

`Appearance does matter. By this, I do NOT mean that it matters whether you look like a movie star or you are not so fortunate. I am talking about personality, aura, spirit, type of life style, etc. – things that do matter in a relationship of any kind. We are all different and when we search for other people who match our own type for whatever reason – or in any kind of communication for that matter – these things surely are important. And these characteristics will often shine through the outside look of a person, to a certain degree at least, and dependent on how good your intuitions are, you may be able to detect a certain portion of these traits from a person’s appearance – often unconsciously. I don’t mean to blame anyone here – people may have their reasons for not putting a photo on their profile which I don’t know anything about. But I do know that when I read a profile without a photo, I really have no impression of who that person is (no offence meant). Words count very little in communication (see below). I know that a photo can indeed cheat and that it is only a momentary glimpse of the person but it can still give you some idea of the type of person you are communicating with and combined with what little else you have, it can add just a tiny bit to the total impression of the person in question.
When we communicate in a place like this, we do not have much to lean on when we are not standing face to face with people. Some scientific studies seem to indicate that in communication concerning feelings and attitudes, words account for 7%, tone of voice accounts for 38%, and body language accounts for 55% of what the message conveys to the receiver. I know that a still picture of a person cannot help in this respect but at least you have some impression of the person however vague it may be. Whether the component values of the above study are true or not, I cannot say – but I do believe that body language plays a major part in communication. So when we communicate in writing, it is very easy to be misunderstood when you cannot see facial expressions, hear the tone of voice, etc. Add to this, differences of nationality, culture, native language, sense of humour, etc. With what percentage does that leave us, I wonder.
English is not my native language (as is the case with quite a few people in here) which means that I cannot express myself as eloquently and precisely as I would be able to in my own language. Coming from another country with another culture may also mean that the phrases you use may be different. In my country, for instance, we do not so much spice our speech with a lot of polite words – but this does not mean that we are not friendly people. Especially in written communication where body language is missing this may lead to misunderstandings – not to speak of our sense of humour which is very much based on irony (in my country). This can really get you into deep trouble if you are not careful. And even if I know this, I tend to forget sometimes because it is just so natural for me to use it.
So communication is really not easy and personally, I want to have as much introductory information as possible (including a photo) before I start communicating with somebody.

[softroses08]

`Good Morning just let me say this, Do read and reread what is been posted within a forum if you are feeling the need to reply:). I was talking about the inner beauty of a person.( Spirit )… Everyone here should all ready know that a person can be just about who they want to be. With that said if a person who has no trust or faith in others needs not to be here. Again Appearance does not matter unless you are focus on outer beauty. Oh by the way you can see a picture of anyone here,does not necessary mean you are talking with that same person you see on that photo. Kinda scary huh? And if you can be who you want to be. Then you can darn well say what you want them to know or believe. Annlisbeth your best bet is to try the spirit and leave the rest to the creator.

[annlisbeth (deleted)]

`Proves what I just said: Communication is difficult!!

I am not talking about outer beauty. I, too, am talking about the spirit and inner beauty of a person (which is also what I said – if you read and reread ). I am just of the opinion that this inner beauty shines through the outside appearance no matter what you look like. And if you doubt that a picture you see in here is not the person you are talking to, where is the trust? I didn’t even think of that.

Softroses08, we may be talking past each other. Maybe we are really not that much in disagreement after all, I think 

[softroses08]

``Proves what I just said: Communication is difficult!! absolutely, exactly my point. I am well averse in communication, because it happens to be one of my degrees. Wishing you well. Enjoy.

[starlightning27 (deleted)]

`Yeah I can say I have not on here still new to this site. But I know what you mean by ew