Closure

[redrunner32]

Can anyone tell me why it is not necessary to have closure when a relationship breaks up? "If I don't call I'm finished" Well fine, but is there something I can apologize for or perhaps and Probably was misunderstood that I can set straight so that noone's heart is broken? Or maybe you need to set straight...

silence.... solotsa..you know..

[scottishgirl_PREV (deleted)]

itsnt closure a strange thing....to be together and in a working relationship both parties should get what they need, but closure......naw.....seems to be that as long as one person has it ...thats good enuf.......crazy huh

must admit...if one person has it though...there isnt anything to lose by giving it to someone u were supposed to care about...or is that just me being a woman?? :

[chumani67_PREV (deleted)]

`The closure may be, hon, that he didn't call..so it's finished.

[(deleted)]

`If someone feels their heart is broken I don't think there is any words that would bring closure.

[chumani67_PREV (deleted)]

`One of my best friends says, "the best way to get over somebody, is to get over somebody!"....he's a man so.. for what it's worth, there you go!

[(deleted)]

One door closures ... another door opens.

[chumani67_PREV (deleted)]

`Well I am just almost scared to see whats behind door number 3! ha!

I say this in good humor (which is so necessary in this..NOT to slam anyone at all!!) I am just laughing at myself in most of my posts here..

[(deleted)]

I opened door number three, there was no one there!!! Just some skin cells and dust bunnies:D

[chumani67_PREV (deleted)]

`This Closure thread is a good place right now...I found with Closure a lot of people are graceful about a peaceful ending and don't want to carry negative feelings. Then those who dont deal with it at all--or just dont have the feelings invested at the time of the break-up for it to be anything other than a relief at the time. But what I find awful to deal with is when you encounter those who can't make the break without bad feelings! Like they are unable to have "closure" UNLESS it is kind of ugly..there has to be ugly things said and seem to need angry feedback to let the situation go! My feeling in that is it's not good to sit there, be a door mat and take the insults...but not give the anger back either--just a simple "good-bye" seems to be a good response no matter how difficult.

[crazyrene]

`sad

[sweetness4life (deleted)]

`I have to say Closure to me is letting it all Go!!!!!!! Let go of all material things and the pain. I was told once, "When you let go the past is nothing but an illusion that has nothing to do with the future!"
But,,, If the guy was a true Dog I apply my other motto before the other; which is; "I don't cry. I get even!"

[tsalagi2]

`Closure is a very interesting thing in that I find some males who would say hey I haven't called or been by that should tell you some thing....o'kay if it were not a personal relationship perhaps a business matter would you take offense if your "business partner" did not call or fill you in about things? More than likely you would...my guess is words like honor and integrity would most likely be thrown about....hey same thing honor and integrity...enough to at least give the other person answers....Too clingly...tell them it will help in their next relationship...frigid, non imaginative....tell them so they can try to improve...Thank you... this has been a public service announcement

[cerulean (deleted)]

`Closure....at times closure is only the beginning of the separation, a stage of acknowledgement of the fact that it is over.
Its is an important stage, that can lead to closing of the door. Once the dust settles one may walk into another relationship without the burden of the last one.
I know I have wasted countless weeks and months because the one I truly cared about obviously chose to separate in a 'kinder'? way. without telling me the simple fact. It was difficult to deal with, as without the truth, I could only deal with phantoms of my imagination. That was torture. I wish I had known the truth from the beginning. I would have saved myself much unnecessary pain and retained respect and positive attitude towards that person.

[sihasin (deleted)]

`closure is a comforting & satisfying sense of finality for me. no looking back but forging ahead to the next stage in my life...

[oldn8tivemale (deleted)]