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evenkianrose
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ok,WISE ahsenakweks...lol...I agree to most of it...that`s how it goes online and in real life...has to do with law of attraction...male weirdos for the female weirdos...
about the soulmate BS, perhaps ppl want to describe they are looking seriously and not for friends ---- --------, online S-- or find some s----l crap in their mailbox..
and please I answered to your post, but I am no MAN HATER...personally I think, parts of them are not so bad...
hope you`ll find what you are looking for on here!
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wanderingspirit
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`Actually, I have met someone on N A P that I am very much in love with; and he feels the same. We haven't had the opportunity to meet yet because of distance.
However, I have friends on here. I don't plan to take my account down for a long while. I've just modified my profile to reflect my life changes, and so has he.
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wanderingspirit
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`Another thing on this topic....Deleting your profiles don't prevent anything. You still have the opportunity to exchange email, phone numbers, etc. just before you warn those people you've been flirting with, that you're deleting your account.
So, just because someone deletes their account, doesn't mean they're clean as a whistle. They could still have shiznit going on the side via NAP, FaceBook, MySpace, RezFox, RezSpace, etc., etc.
You really don't have much of a choice but to trust that the person you chose is totally on the same page as you. And if they aren't, and things don't work out, you can always come back to NAP if you chose to leave in the first place.
Personally, I see no point in leaving. I totally trust my sweetheart. I'm sure he trusts me . I am an open book with him, and hell I tell him everything. Some things I don't even know WHY I tell him, I just do. I don't want to hide anything from him.
I never give him a reason to distrust me. I don't like lying, they require too much upkeep. It really is a WHOLE lot easier just to be honest. Honesty can save you so much drama that would have been spun out of lying.
Think about this......everyone has flaws. First, you need to be honest with yourself about your own flaws. Love yourself as you are. If you love yourself, then you really should feel NO NEED to hide anything. There is someone for everyone. Some people get lucky and find their soul mates right away while they're still young. Others chase after their dream of that soul mate for their entire lives.
Just be real with yourself and each other. Deleting a profile is unnecessary and proves nothing. If you open yourself up to this person you love so much, and they accept you and your flaws (usually the flaws are what makes people turn and run away; bcuz so many have Mr./Ms. PERFECT in mind) there's a very good chance you may have a keeper. If they take off bcuz of a flaw, reality check, they really DIDN'T love you.
Also, relationships with jealous/insecure people require a LOT of maintenance. If you think it's worth it, knock yourself out. You could spend a LOT of time stressing over setting your mate off, if they get jealous easily. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life walking on eggshells with this person ? It's just something to think about. Food for thought.
But hey, that's just my opinion.
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redskindako
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`! WanderingSpirit!
I totally agree with what you are saying, people need to take more time to understand who they are, and what they are looking for in a person! I would hope that by the time someone decides to "settle down" with that important someone, they can distinguish the difference between who has the same values and those who are not, I know that this is easier said then done, and that if someone really plans to deceive or lie to you, they probably will. that is the point in which personal growth and experience comes in to play, have the faith in Yourself to pick someone who respects you, and vise versa! If you can't trust yourself to do that, then its best you focus on who you are as a person, not which person is your, "soul mate" or "perfect match" Relationships take work, but it should be about mutual growth, not one person being reliant on the other for any reason.
"Love" is knowing that the person you are with is in it for the same reasons you are, and will fight just as hard as you, and for you, in any aspect of life! So we shouldn't worry about petty things such as, Facebook "status" or "public networking profiles" the only time that should be a problem is if it is solely for the purpose of a "h--k up" , you have asked the person to remove it, and they refuse! because that is a issue of respect, and respect is Important!
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spirituplifting
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I would most definitely delete my profile here if I got serious about someone.
Regardless of the fact that there is a social aspect to this site, it is set up as a dating site with the pretense that we are here for romance.
In my life, when I am involved with someone, I don't enjoy situations that will predispose me towards getting s----l or romantic attention from others. One person is all I want to handle.
Again, if I DID find what I'm looking for (a life mate) I'd delete my profile without the slightest hesitation.
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spirituplifting
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`redskindako, I'm glad you posted what you did.
I didn't think about relationships in general in relation to the post... until I read your response and it SO hits 'relationship' right on the mark.
You just perfectly explained what I've been thinking. Except that I would have gotten caught in the details, while you smoothly poured it out in a way that was whole and understandable.
Thank you, for that.
Man, I wish I could quote this... like copy on a piece paper even! LOL How perfectly does someone EVER describe a healthy relationship, EVER? LOL Thanks again!
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n8tiv3sugar
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If dating exclusively I would delete and expect them to do so as well. The friends you make on here can be added to one of your other social networking sites.
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`I'm not using this site exclusively for dating, but if I met someone, whether it be on here or any other place, I'd set it to friends only.
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dpatterson
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`I was on the site and found someone and we decided to delete our accounts and after that he wanted nothing to do with me and put his account back up I had told him if he wanted to end things to tell me and he did not. Now I'm glad I found out what type of person he is before me and my daughter moved out to CO with him. So I wuld not delete my account but would change a few things on the account to say off the market or friendship only. It's hard trying to trust someone you meet on the internet but we hve to try. Ladies and Gentlemen just be careful before you delete your account and if your mate truly understands you they wll not mind if yo have friends on the site. Just do not be sneaky about anything. Remember who you truly love and how you found them.
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swetlena007
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`I think better not delete. Because internet too large. If partner not honesty its nothing not change. He will continue to search at others sites and not only in internet;)
Some people hate control and if you push somebody for delete profile.. Only for freedom can make on the contrary.))
Boys, girls not push your partners! ))))
It is their choice delete or not delete.
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