What works; what doesn't. Lessons learned about us.

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Healthy, loving, and respectful relationships are about us. How we treat each other. When we treat each other as YOU (unique and sacred) and not an IT (object, label, ...), I believe, that is at the heart of bing healthy, loving, and respectful.

Lessons learned from ancestors, elders, children, partners, and our personal experience are best shared. By telling our stories we come to understand more; we become wiser together.

What there is to know in this universe is vast; no one can know it all. What I know is a little. You know a little. Together, we will always know more than any one of us. There is strength, companionship, and wisdom when we share what we know with open minds and hearts.

I would love to hear, see, touch, smell, and taste what you know. Please share your experience: your knowing.

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Yesterday I sat with an elder around the sacred circle, listening and feeling the heart beat of the Pow Wow -- the drums and people dancing. He's been married for 58 years. He must know something.

He shared a part of his way of life. He councils with his wife. He said when ever they have a problem. They sit down and talk about the problem until they find a solution that they can both accept and live with. Another words, until they both come to ok.

I've found if I "talk" with the intention of reaching my yes, and you want your yes, then we probably will never get to our ok -- we've found the solution.

When I see these two elders talk to each other: they speak with calm, quite, and respectful words and actions. Ah, this is a good lesson.

What do you have to share or ask?

Meguich. Thank you for your time.
We are all related -- so, let's relate! ;)

[ohdeerme_PREV (deleted)]

I am Native and there are not that many true ndns on this site...but to the ones who are Native, yes I am related....is sad..as I joined this site thinking that this would be a great place for NATIVE AMERICANS to find each other...
I see cha mok a mon (biligaana) women looking to find their "Harlequin Romance" Native man on here...their long haired, brown skinned warrior....They do not even know what a warrior is...not all ndn men can even be called that... a true warrior is a man who has seen war...our veterans...or their looking for their "chief"...or men looking for their princesses!! Get real....I am ndn royalty..I AM A FRYBREAD QUEEN!...make me angry? yes..it does...To me...to mix is comitting genocide....I guess I am old skool...my gramma always told me..be careful with whom u chose as a mate...u lay outside ur own people..u lose what ur are...and I see it...my own relations who married non natives....their children...raised non traditional....therefore they will marry non native....is sad...
anyway that is my 2 cents worth!

[unchida_PREV (deleted)]

I agree with you completely. Our men, the majority of them, search for money and easy life, than for sincere relations and love. I saw many examples in life when native man leaving the wife and children went to white woman, only because she is richer. Where now man's pride? Why you are began so weak? Why instead of solving problems, you run from them? Where warriors who were not afraid of anything and never complained?... "Oh, I can't live here, here the conditioner is broken". When comes a problem and you solve it by alcohol, has got drunk and all is indifferent. It is the decision of problems?
This is my true

the wind knows where to find me

[ohdeerme_PREV (deleted)]

seen it one too many times....is sad, because it seems they are looking for a "fantasy life"...thinking they will have it easier...with out children..leaving their families for a non native woman....but they will never find happiness with someone who will never understand their ways...yup, it's sad...

[yonausdi_PREV (deleted)]

Many blessings to all my relatives here. I have been thinking a long while before saying what follows: the same words I hear from my sisters here, I have heard them from white,black and other people, as I communicate with people around the world. What is the good of talking about all being ONE if we do not understand each other or are willing to accept that to continue traditions and education is not in the blood but withinside of us. I am a mixed cherokee/german, just as Sequoyah who brought the written alphabet to my Cherokee Nation and many others who have helped to adapt in a world that does not belong to our way of feeling and thinking. Worldwide men escape from their wifes and families in order to seek for greener grass or simply to make it easier for him. It is not white women or native women or black women or....it is within men´s behaviour, just as hundreds of years back native women searched for white men to save themselves and their kids. I am living in Spain,Europe for the past 30 years and inspite of my own path, I have come to understand that mixed heritage means a bridge between cultures, understanding both parts or more as I continued mixing and my kids do as well....our education is of family values and being responsible for our acts with deep respect for Mother Earth and all living beings,not of racisme and rejecting someone just because of being from another culture. You all use computers here, don t you.....that is white men´s invention and it serves us all well, like many other things. Democratic goverments were introduced to white people by natives...we exchange constantly. It is a choice of each of us which path we would like to walk and learn on, which way to educate our children. My white mother tried to beat my Red Path out of me and never managed. Tell me sisters....am I less worth to listen to Creator as you are?

Mischa

[unchida_PREV (deleted)]

In you the white side speaks, therefore you never will understand us. It's only interest for you, is no more

the wind knows where to find me