Is there any real men out there? Maybe a real soul mate?

[lisamarie1966 (deleted)]

Ok, I am new here.. and still looking for that one special person to grow old with. I am a single mom of a special needs boy and looking for my soul mate.. I am SO tired of the liars and users...I am NOT looking for a S-- buddy.. but a ltr with someone real...Where are they all at?

[reb67 (deleted)]

`i do hope someone will disagree with me here for hope sake..but, no, there is not a" soul mate" out there i have seen so many people fall into just bad believing in this. there are some nice guys, i'm sure. but they will be the ones who dont stand out..probably the nice and plain guy who you've dismissed as being in the "friend zone". you know the one who's listened to all your bad days and dried your tears when a hopeful soul mate didnt pan out.
good luck and love to you and especially you're precious boy- he is your TRUE "soul-mate".

[walkingbadger (deleted)]

`man, your're a stick in the mud. of course there's a mate out there for everyone. you just gotta let it happen in real time. it just takes time to find the one that's going to set off fireworks in your heart & not firecrackers. you'll know because there are responsible men out there who will give it their all for you.

[whollyheretic (deleted)]

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People can become real if they work at perceiving reality.
Those who swim only in the soup of social ritual and emotion
without going beyond cannot be a soul-mate for anyone -
they simply lack the ability to understand and act appropriately.

You want a perfect partner ?
So strive for perfection endlessly.
Like attracts like.

[wolfwarrior (deleted)]

`I believe there are people you are meant to spend a life time with. Each of us has someone, sometimes the search is really hard because of bad situations. I will never give up the hope that one day I will find the one I am meant to be with for life. We have that right to believe in what we believe. Love can and always will be a good thing. I will not sacrifice what I believe in. I will not turn away a single mom because children deserve to have two parents that love them, I will continue to believe in unconditional love, I will continue to do for others and never ask for anything in return, I will cook....clean..and do laundry. I will still be full of romantic surprises because I believe that little things mean so much more. And I will try my hardest to always be there for someone. To me love is the most important thing. Without it, what is the point of life. I am a true romantic and I wont stop.

[cherokeespirit1 (deleted)]

`Very well said Wolfwarrior. I too agree there is someone for everyone. It takes ALOT of hard searching and talking, but I STILL believe it IS possible there is someone out there for everyone. (I am still searching my my life partner).

Just sharing my thoughts.
Blessings

[oldscratch63 (deleted)]

`I think there is always hope,at least for some of us,but I think the term soul-mate is an over used catch phrase.I always just used to settle but now being 48 years I will wait and just stay alone.I didn't marry the first and only time until I was 32 and had been working full time since I was 15 and had managed to save about 130 grand that no one knew about in a hidden account.I lived off the interest along with working and my wife of 3 years was a R.N. and made good money but never paid anything and spent all her money on herself and I took care of everything.I got deployed to the mid-east for 3 years and she was in bed with my best friend since grade school about 3 months after I left.I returned home pretty torn up and had divorce papers waiting on me because she hired some bottom feeder lawyer and I live in a State where the woman gets half or more of everything you ever worked for yet contributed nothing and I was partially disabled due to spine injuries so it's very hard to trust and I know a lot of guys my age who feel the same way and we have just learned to be alone and try and be happy.I dated a woman I loved very much until she started pushing the marriage thing and I just told her that I would not marry again without a prenup,if at all and she freaked but had a great job.I know not all women are not like my ex but I seem to always pick the wrong ones.I would love to settle with a woman but women are not looking for shot up Marines who are living on partial military pensions because no one will hire you after 3 major back surgeries and torn up sciatic nerves because they are afraid they may have to pay comp if you get hurt on the job.Trust is a very hard thing to come by these days so I kind of 86'd the whole Soul-Mate thing but it's a happy fantasy for me but a lot of men are just too afraid to take the chance after divorce,child support,and alimony and I can't blame them because nothing in life is etched in stone and I never cheated once even with girlfriends but my clock is ticking away fast but maybe there is still hope but I'm not holding my breath:~) Blessings

[calmcherokee (deleted)]

`Love, the only logical reason for the human existance. When I am alone and the thoUghts of past loves haunt me, ii is then i realise my faults. i reach into my soul and try to grasp what I seek in my soul-mate. Some how our experiences of the past loves influence the perceptions of what could be.

[bob1953 (deleted)]

`I think reb67 has it right. The true "soul mate" is the quiet steady one. After 25 years of marriage I lost my best friend and wife to cancer. She was one of those who thought she wanted someone to "keep up" with her. What she found out was that when there was a reason to come home, home was where she wanted to be. When the best place in your life is home, you don't need to be running around looking for entertainment. Yes, going out occasionally is nice, but done seldom makes it more special. The happier you are at home, the simpler live is, and after all, isn't the simple life what we are after?