Fathers, Are We To Forgive?

[ndnheart (deleted)]

Thomas Builds The Fire speaks--Smoke Signals;
"How do we forgive our fathers? Maybe in a dream? Do we forgive our fathers for leaving us too often or forever when we were little? Maybe for scaring us with unexpected rage or making us nervous; because there never seem not to be any rage at all. Do we forgive our fathers for marring or not marring our mothers? Or divorcing or not divorcing our mothers? And shall we forgive them for their accesses warmth or coldness? Shall we forgive them for pushing or leaning; for shutting doors, for speaking through walls? Or never speaking or never being silent?
---------------------yelling / cry with FORGIVENESS!--------------------------
Do we forgive our fathers in our age or in theirs? Or in their deaths, saying it to them? Or not saying it? If we forgive our fathers...
WHAT IS LEFT?"
NdnHeart speaks-- "dad, i wish i knew your life back in day when you were in a coma at the hospital. i do not understand who you were. but i do remember them times when you drank. and remembering visiting you at the hospital, before i went to school. and remembering heading home on the bus, passing by the hospital, wondering when you well wake up. also wondering how could you be asleep for such a long time. i waited to hear your goofy jokes every morning for the past time you were there. now that you are gone. i still wonder about you. what you are doing? i love you dad and i miss you. someday i well be there with you."
happy father's day.

[rblyl (deleted)]

`'Never ~nderestimate the power of those absent in ones life' is what I think of when I think of the word 'father'. ..I have considered 'forgiveness', only there is s~ch resistance to forgive those who never asked for it.
My own grandfather stepped into the role 'father' as best he co~ld, and when he died at a fairly yo~ng age my thinking was 'there went one of the last great men, and the world dosent know it.' He did his best I believe..only still if I were in a room filled with honest and good men and one with the ability to betray all that he claims closest to him...THATS the one I hone in on...and that is the legacy of my own father.
My own heart will hope and believe in a love, even if it's behind the 'veil' of this life of the one who wished to be there as a father and who deserves that place of HONOR ..my grandpa. Whose legacy to me was love.
lovely day.